Grendel

Grendel

I have just returned from a good friends funeral, he died after contracting a staff infection at the hospital after back and neck surgery, He had gone down in a 50-60 mph curve on a rural road with a large pack of MC riders, most of whom I knew, (I was not thare). I been riding with him for more than 25+ years, we had ridden in an endurance race back in 1990 together, he crashed my bike but all was good. We were never really close but he was an outstanding man in many ways. Ali Allen was his name, he was one of the most kind and generous men I had ever met, he was always the person that was first to shake your hand, a true gentleman that I will miss, he was 56 yo, a character extraordinaire. This makes me wonder why it is these people that are so nice that go, never the mean ones always the nicest people you will ever meet.

I had complained to our clan leader of Ali's persistence to place his front tyre on his new 08 SV650 within inches of my rear tyre at 80 mph around a tight curve, he had never done this on any of our numerous outings before. I was tempted to tell him not to do this anymore or to wave him on by,,, cos I was uncomfortable with the situation, but I had only grumbled to one of his closest friends and not him.

This makes me realise when sitting in the church listening to all of the many testimonies, JEEZ.... why don't I have better people skills, I may have saved his life by telling him rather than complaining to someone else. At times I say too much, other times I do not say enough or I will just say the wrong thing. I had thought he was riding too fast for conditions, I was breaking in a new set of tyres. Now I have regrets, makes me want to crawl in my hole and roll up in a small ball. I was the only person at the funeral with tennis shoes cos I worked this morning, (did wear a freshly pressed dress shirt), I feel like an ass.
Mr_Trecolareco

Mr_Trecolareco

Grendel believes funerals are always a time of great self reflection. Both in how a person conducts their own life and how they may have influenced outcomes in anothers. Grendel feels your pain and is sorry for your loss.
wrebitup

wrebitup

Joe - I'm sorry for your loss. Dont blame your self, that isnt fair.
smoky

smoky

Joe you need to stop blaming your self for his actions. You mentioned his age and riding experience, certainly by this time he should have known his own limitations and known when to slow himelf down.
All that you can do know is pass this experience on to others to learn from.
Bald Kirk

Bald Kirk

1st - i'm sorry for your loss, my condolances to Ali family and friends

2nd - joe, don't blame yourself, I know it's a difficult time for you and lot's of stuff go through your mind. But from what I see in this forum I'm sure you were nothing but a good friend to Ali and respectful at his funeral.

I believe that when someones time here has come, there's nothing we can do about it, just hope he's somewhere upstairs looking out for us!

p.s- and yes I agree with you, the good one's die young
SuperDuke69

SuperDuke69

Hi Joe , very sad to read.

But after i looked at it from this side, you had him with you for more time than most marridges last .

As for what you might have done and may have said , there are too many ifs Joe .

Do not go down that road , its a g.teed "closed ahead " diversion.

We all put up with our friends little faults , because were are there friends , and i bet they put up with some of ours .

Remeber how great a guy he was and how you were there to know him in this life .

Keep him alive in your thoughts and your actions.

Rest well Brother Ali.

My condolences to you and his close family Joe
Bald Kirk

Bald Kirk

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